Changes?

Side Note: We've entered the season of Lent. I've given up TV and online entertainment. Part of that is facebook. Blogs are different, I think. They are more like public letters. Facebook is a huge time waster, and it gives you the illusion of being in touch with people. I am thinking of closing my account for good and going back to blogging regularly. It is more productive and creative, I think. At the same time, Facebook is nice for overseas acquaintances. We'll see how the next 40 days go, and then I'll make my decision.

 
A new season of my life is here. It has been one of those big, and yet natural, changes. We only get a couple of those in life: when you start elementary school, sometimes when your family moves, when you go away to college... and now, marriage. In some ways, I think my shift into marriage has been more easy going than for some people. For one thing, I wasn't one of those people who got married right out of school, or (in the spanish scenario) who lived with their parents up until they get hitched. That would have been a big change. Instead, I've had about 4 years of bachelor life getting me ready to live with Jessica. Roomates, bills, cleaning, cooking, working... half of the day-to-day responsibilities that make up marriage are old news. In fact, they are better in some ways, because I share them with my best friend. Also, in a bizarre way, I am not carrying the full burden of a career because I am back in school. So my first 6 months of marriage are quite progressive in terms of life-changes. In some ways, it was more of a change in September, when I moved to the US and started school again after years of being away. I don't think I'll fully feel like an adult married man until I finish school. Call me again in September, and ask me how I feel once I have finished Grad School and am working full time.

Comments

Jenn said…
I'm glad that the transition to marriage is going smoothly for you. The hardest parts about transitioning for me had nothing to do with marriage and everything to do with learning how to live away from my parents and in the US. But, the awesome thing is that when I look back I can still see how much BETTER marriage is now than at first. So even though it's going well for you, be encouraged to know that it will get even better.
18/2/10 13:24
Ryan said…
That is what I mean, I already did the transition of moving away from home 8 years ago; the transition of moving into an apt 5 years ago; and the transition of moving to the US twice, once 8 years ago and again 6 months ago. So getting used to marriage is really proving to be about getting used to the actual state of being married rather than the living situation.
I can see how it will get better too, so thanks for the confirmation.
18/2/10 13:40
Anonymous said…
Not even LOST? :-)
I agree about FB.. although I ended up returning to it. I was just too curious to stay away.

Yeah, the living-together aspect of marriage can be a really stressful part of the transition, so it´s a huge plus that you both got to experience that beforehand.

-eva
18/2/10 15:36
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